Why Healthy Love Is Boring?

You're on the couch at 19:26 on a Tuesday. Nothing is wrong.

The person next to you is kind. They text back. They remember your coffee order.

And your whole body is screaming: RUN.

This isn't a love story. It's an intervention.

Why Healthy Love Is Boring is for anyone who finally chose the safe relationship—only to discover their nervous system has no idea what to do with it.

Through raw, everyday scenes—supermarket aisles, dentist waiting rooms, quiet Tuesday evenings—this book names the patterns that make you sabotage the very thing you begged for:

• Chasing-the-Spike (that electric jolt you mistake for love)
• Sleep-Score Love (measuring devotion in dark circles and lost sleep)
• The Two-Inch Gap (the distance you keep from soft touch)
• Non-Emergency Presence (being with someone when nothing needs saving)
• Truth-Ticking (saying the real thing before it becomes a weapon)

These aren't diagnostic labels. They're language you can use mid-pattern—so you can catch yourself in real time.

You'll love this if you:

• sabotage solid relationships the moment they turn quiet
• feel bored by consistent, loving partners
• confuse anxiety with chemistry—turbulence with depth
• keep reaching for your phone next to someone who loves you
• measure love by how much it hurts
• left a good relationship for the thrill of a bad one

What you'll get:

✓ A precise vocabulary for your patterns
✓ Scenes that create recognition without shame
✓ The difference between peace and emptiness

No ten-step plan. No worksheets. No forced positivity.

Just one person sitting beside you on that couch, pointing at the exact moment you reach for the old reflex—and showing you what happens when you finally put it down.

What readers are saying:

"I've never felt so seen. This gave me language for what I've been doing for years." — early reader
"Not a self-help book—more like a mirror that doesn't shame you." — early reader
"Finally, a book that explains why I self-sabotage good relationships." — early reader

What's inside:
📄 Formats included: PDF + EPUB
⚡ Instant access after purchase (download anytime)
📱 Device-friendly: EPUB works in Apple Books, Kobo, and most e-readers. Kindle users can use Send to Kindle to upload EPUB.

FAQ

Is this a self-help book with exercises?
No. This is a memoir that names patterns through real scenes—no worksheets, no homework, no "10 steps."

Who is this for?
Anyone who feels restless in safety, keeps reaching for intensity, or can't tell the difference between "bored" and "safe."

Will this fix my relationship?
It won't "fix" you. It gives you language to recognize your patterns. Think of it as a mirror, not a manual.

Can I try before I buy?
Yes — download the free sample: [https://shorturl.at/IkVUq] (Introduction + Chapter 1).

Can I read this on my Kindle?
Yes — Kindle users can send the EPUB using Send to Kindle (Amazon converts it for Kindle).

What's your refund policy?
Digital sales are generally final. If you have a download or file issue, contact me and I'll fix it—if it can't be resolved, I'll refund.

Is this about recovering from abuse?
This book is about patterns that show up in safe-but-unfamiliar relationships. If you're currently in an unsafe relationship, your priority is safety first.

About the author

Saylor Win spent a decade leaving good relationships for chaotic ones before finally asking: Why does my body treat safety like a threat? This book is her answer—not from a therapist's office, but from the supermarket aisles, quiet couches, and ordinary moments where patterns actually live.

You're not broken. You're patterned.

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